I want children but I dont want to be pregnant, I just couldn’t do it… It makes me super dysphoric because it makes me realise that I wont ever be able to impregnate a woman.
I was able to get through this by removing the trans aspect. There are tons of men who are sterile and have to come to terms with it. Theres plenty of online support if you need it. Changing perspective can help a lot.
Yes, changing the way I think about dysphoria can really help me and I have been doing this for years now. For almost every problem you face as a trans man, there are cis men who are dealing with the same issue.
Some examples:
There are some cis men who have gynecomastia (also known as “man boobs”) and need surgery to get a flat chest. Some of these guys aren’t even overweight, they just start to grow breast tissue.
Lots of men feel inadequate due to the size of their penis, and there are men who don’t have a penis at all, usually due to an accident like being shot, being in a car smash, or because of a botched circumcision. I remember reading about a guy who lost his penis as a child in a sledding accident!
I remember feeling really dysphoric about my hips at one time, and went on an online hunt and found some cis guys with huge hips (they provided photos) and they also had the same struggles I emotionally felt.
As far as a monthly cycle goes, I used to know a guy who had to wear pads because of a tailbone injury he experienced that caused random bleeds. Made me feel slightly better about needing to use sanitary products for a while, knowing my cis male friend had to go through that too.
The list goes on and on. Cis men who think their voice is too high pitched, who can’t grow facial hair, and even more.
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