i think the funniest and realist thing i’ve realized lately is how troubling idealization can be. every person is just… a person. the very people you want to impress or be apart of are just people. even if they seem wildly intimidating because of the way they look or because of their reputation, every one is just a person. human. as embarrassing, as remorseful and they are going through stages of growth just like you are. we only see what we want to see and then drown ourselves further in our own depression and we don’t have to.

How to Kill Feelings of Inadequacy

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. Choose to like, love, value, and believe in yourself. Choose to be your greatest ally – and the best friend you could have.

2. Ask a good friend if they’ll tell you what they like about you most. Then believe what they are saying – don’t just push their words aside.

3. Commit to discovering what you’re good at and enjoy, then invest time in developing those attributes and traits.

4. Don’t exalt others’ gifts as if they matter more than yours. Every talent is important. Don’t right off your personal strengths.

5. Learn to show yourself compassion when you struggle or you fail. And remember “you are human” – so you’re going to make mistakes.

6. Notice ways that you are growing … ways you’re changing over time. Give yourself some credit for this – you are different from before.

positivedoodles:

Inktober #4. If you want to see more doodles made in traditional media (pen, colored pencils, watercolors), I post a bunch of them on my patreon.

[Image description: blue pen drawing of a cat wearing a witch hat and holding a wand next to a caption that says “I’ve made great progress and I’ll make more. I am on my way to success.”]

romanticmusings:

cute-hypothetical-scenarios:

meaningfulsuggestion:

lightheartedsuggestion:

The world is a little happier with you in it.

The world is a little brighter with you in it.

The world is a little sweeter with you in it.

The world is a little softer with you in it.

eearth:

Show yourself the love that you seek from other people.

transpocsuggestion:

I think maybe we need to stop waiting for other people to give us permission to matter

fit-to-fight-you:

self growth can only be reached single handedly. no one can make you grow other than your willingness to do so. it is you who decides to open your mind to new knowledge and innovations. you hold the key to your growth and life improvements, stop waiting for anyone else to give it to you.

loversinthebodega:

Don’t let your fear of what could happen, make nothing happen.

jeniphyer:

I know I be saying “getchu a me” but honestly, are any of us really a good catch? like yea half of us look attractive on paper but are we actually good people? good lovers? compassion for those outside of our bubble? understanding and accepting of love languages besides our own? or are we just dealing with people who tolerate our bullshit and stroke our egos?

lonniiii:

Don’t waste your time. You are too valuable to be waiting around for what ifs, maybe, & or potentially.